You Can Generate Attraction Regardless Of Your Looks

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

Some men think they are too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

Some think they’re too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

Many men feel hopeless when it comes to attracting the woman they desire, because of such feelings.

However, it is not true.

I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 – You have to be good looking to get women.

All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

What’s the difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women Think Just As Men Do

Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

Naturally, we practice this attitude while summing others up. Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to determine by visually appraising her whether you think she is attractive.

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.

This is incorrect.

Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.

A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice A Man’s Uncertainty And Insecurity

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

We see it, no matter what it is.

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

Keep in mind that insecurities and anxiety are completely unattractive.

It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.

Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she’s around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.

You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.

The second part of connect with women is generating sexual attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is when seduction comes into play.

As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.

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