Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

When you think of “dating” a woman, you probably think of “dinner and a movie,” am I right?

Going out and doing things with a woman while you get to know one another is dating.

Consider for a moment that this is a misconception about dating.

See, most guys use the concept of “going out” with a girl to mean that there is some romantic ulterior motive there, and that is not always the case.

Let’s go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when “dating” a girl…

Mistake #1: Dates are only to make a good impression.

Lots of guys think they have something to prove on dates. They “have to get her to like me!” So they’ll try and take her to fancy places to show her a memorable time, and they’ll try and brag about themselves to come off as important.

Mistake #2: Buying your way into the heart of a woman.

This is not true and is a very bad idea, since many women are not concerned about the amount of money you spend on a date. There is no amount of money or any expensive item you can buy that will get a woman interested in you if there is no mutual attraction.

Mistake #3: Activities Mean Nothing!

Just the sheer act of going out to places with somebody doesn’t mean as much as you think it does. If you do the typical “dinner and a movie” thing, that won’t necessarily get the girl to like you. Spending time together does not always equate to romantic interest.

Mistake #4: Guys can become BORING!

A date with no spark of chemistry is boring. Although many men become nervous while on dates, they often interrupt themselves by becoming boring. They often talk about their routines while displaying little to none of their distinct personality. This is going through the motions with hopes of not messing things up.

Mistake #5: The patterns of failure.

Finally, many men get a certain idea about dating in their heads – how things are supposed to be – and they follow that rigidly. They take every girl to the same restaurant. They ask her the same questions. They take all the fun and spontaneity out of the interaction.

What does dating a woman mean?

Simple: Dating is the process of building comfort, strengthening emotional connections, and building attraction!

See, it doesn’t matter where you go, or how much money you spend. All that matters is how you’re able to connect to the woman you’re with and what you can make her feel about you.

This is the key to why many men can go on a cheap date with a woman, while sweeping her off her feet, while other men may overspend on creative dating and get absolutely nowhere with the woman.

You should completely focus on how you can increase your emotional connection with the woman you date.

Consider talking about your passions and shared interests, this will aid you in determining what hopes and dreams she holds dear.

Take care to keep away from boring questions that involve work rather you might consider rephrasing your questions while adding interesting fun while on a date. As an example, you may ask her, If you were not held back by the laws of time and space and could do anything, what would you do.

Just have fun and enjoy yourself!

You might want to tell her a joke, even if it is not the best, just so you can both enjoy a good chuckle. Take care to guide the conversation towards the things she finds interesting, this helps you find out who she is. Be curious.

Above all, do not be to shy to bring up romance.

Although many men shy away from approaching the subject of relationships while on a date, you should build the intensity of attraction by building toward that.

Be a little wicked by flirting and joking with her, as this will encourage and build the attraction she has for you and then you can move on to the next level of your relationship.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
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Let me ask you a question…

Do you have a favorite woman, yet despite all your romantic efforts, you remain just friends?

Well, there is a reason that happened!

Chances are it was because you did not know how to flirt properly with the woman.

Since flirting is a vital element in the process of attraction and you do not do it correctly, or even worse, not at all, you may be leaving your opportunity to be with the woman up to chance.

What is the importance of flirting?

The answer is simple: Flirting is the process by which sexual tension is created!

When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.

Yes, that is right; it makes you simply a friend.

You can increase the attraction a woman finds in you by knowing how to flirt with her.

Flirting is a lot of fun and not so much a secret as some might consider, however when done incorrectly it will not work.

Flirting with a woman is an art form. Flirting is the ability to communicate the romantic interest you have for a woman, while being subtle about the subject.

Mixed signals are what this is.

You communicate one thing yet your words say something very different.

Some of the most common mistakes men make while flirting with a woman include:

MISTAKE #1: They Are Way Too Obvious

Too many guys get excited about the women they are attracted to, and will come out and say exactly what they are feeling. What they don’t realize is that when presented with this information, the girl is then forced to make a judgment, right then and there, about how she feels about THEM.

You must lay the proper groundwork ahead of time, so you can avoid rejection.

MISTAKE #2: They Are Not Obvious Enough!

If you make no effort to communicate your interest, yet think the woman will just know what you feel, when you do make a move it surprises the woman, because up until that point she has no idea of your interest.

MISTAKE #3: They Rely More On Words Than Actions

Flirting has a good deal to do with the words you use; however, non-verbal body language is a more powerful method. These are those little things such as, tilting your head, raising an eyebrow or casting a wicked little smile, since they give new meaning to otherwise innocent remarks.

MISTAKE #4: Taking Themselves Too Seriously

Flirting is fun and light when done properly. When men begin adding serious romantic gestures with flirting, the sexual tension begins to break down.

You are doing something wrong when you or the woman is not having fun while you flirt.

I could list more mistakes like these, but I think you get the idea. So what’s the right way to start flirting?

You’re going to want to use as much sexual innuendo as you can. This is a great way to flirt. But the key here is to be SUBTLE.

Let us say you are at a bar, for example and the woman you are with orders a drink and then asks if you would like one as well, you can jokingly say to her, You aren’t trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me, are you, while adding a nod and a wink.

This communicates your interest, it’s insinuating sex, but you’re not coming outright and saying it. It’s implied, and it’s fun, and its light hearted.

Another example would be, if a girl says something raunchy or naughty to you, you might respond with something like “Stop trying to seduce me, you vixen! You know I don’t put out on the first date.”

Consider how this works.

As you begin flirting more and more, you begin to get a bit more obvious about your interests, although you never really step over that line.

While doing this, you begin to notice the attraction that is building between you and the woman. Before much longer, all that harmless flirting turns into outright seduction.

The real fun begins at this point.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

If there was ever a balancing act in our lives, it’s the one in which we have to balance our desires, and our beliefs.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

It is natural to strive to stand firm in what we believe and for most Christian men, staying within the boundaries of the church is essential for their experience of love.

One of those boundaries is that sex should only happen once married.

I don’t judge this tenant. Some people choose to follow it. I believe this is just as valid as the people who choose not to follow it.

Ancient philosophy informs us that partaking of sex with one another mingles a piece of our soul with the other and then continues with us forever.

Keeping your virginity for your wife is a wise choice since this is true in some respects.

This can present a challenge for men who strive to remain strong in their faith.

How do continue to attract a woman and foster a relationship if you have to wait until marriage to consummate it?

Sex is important after all, since marriage to someone sexually incompatible is a difficult union for anyone.

Here is some advice I’ve come up with specifically for men who face this issue of romance vs. faith.

1. Be clear about what you believe.

Faith guides us throughout our lifetime, is essential that you are clear in where you place your faith and beliefs.

God gave us free will and the ability to think and reason. It is up to us to look at all our options and decide what path to take. You may believe in some of what the Church teaches, but not all. Or, you may embrace all of the Church’s teachings.

Your choice is your own; however, you must be clear of your belief and stand strong.

2. Understand that God has a plan for you.

Keep your faith in knowing God has a plan to unite you and the woman who is meant for you.

Keep in mind, you have to do your part too, since there is only so much that he can do. You have free will and must take action to capture the opportunities presented to you.

To find the right woman for you, you must be proactive.

Since your actions are belief based on the path God that has set before you, you have to make it happen. This means going out to meet women, dating and getting to know the woman. Remember this is not something that just happens.

3. Understand that virginity is not mysterious or essential.

Sex is simply an act, whether virginity is in question or not. It comes naturally as does walking, talking and breathing. We do these things.

Gods intention is for man to be fruitful and multiply, this means sex. It is one of the greatest gifts from God; his intention is for us to have sex, this is why sex is pleasurable.

So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost – the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!

In the end, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. It’s the aspect that you find someone who makes you feel whole, alive, and loved. This is something separate from the act of sex, because this touches you on a deeper level.

It is this type of intimacy you should strive to achieve before marriage, because this will help you to know if the physical aspect will be in tune as well.

Do not be afraid to be intimate with women! Kissing, hugging, touching – this is all fine. But sharing your hopes and dreams, staring deep into her eyes and feeling her inner-most desires… that is where true intimacy stems from.

4. Look at women as real people, and do not put them on a pedestal.

You might be tempted to place a woman on a pedestal when your faith places sex as so important.

Perhaps you consider her a goddess, a delicate flower, something you should cherish and treat special.

But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the females of our species. And that being human, we all share similar traits.

Understanding that women as people are just like men, this enables us to gain a better perspective of whether we are meant to share our lives with them.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
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Some pick up lines are unbecoming, boring and rude.

For example how often have you heard bad pick up lines such as:

“Did it hurt? When you fell from heaven, did it hurt?”

“Do I know you from somewhere?”

“I lost my number, can I have yours?”

Using a line like these will get you nowhere with a woman fast, chances are she will not even speak to you.

Because pick of lines such as these, which are bad get too much attention, while encouraging others to consider that all pick up lines are worthless.

This simply is not true.

A good pick up line will ACTUALLY help you pick up a woman.

The true point in using pick up lines is to begin a conversation.

It is as simple as that, merely to engage a woman in conversation.

After the woman begins talking with you, then you work your magic of getting her to date you, her telephone number and the emotional connection.

Remember, if you do not begin a conversation, you cannot do much more.

You want something more that just talking to a woman; you want to engage her in a good conversation. Drawing her into your conversation is the only means of continuing your relationship journey.

Good pick up lines help you do this.

It is natural to be nervous when going out to meet women, being unsure what to say; however, most often you miss your chance to meet a good woman, simply because it takes to long to think up something to say.

It is essential to have at least a couple of good working pick up lines, especially for those times when you are nervous and cannot think of anything original that helps you take action.

But don’t be fooled into thinking you can get away with a line like:

“I know you from somewhere, don’t I?”

All women know this to be a lame pick up line. You might think you’re being clever when you say this, but you’re not.

Also, doing things like asking for directions, telling a girl she looks like a certain celebrity, and complimenting her on a piece of clothing are BAD ways to pick a girl up.

Why is this?

These lines do not engage the woman, since once she answers you; the conversation has nowhere to go.

Avoid pick up lines that have yes and no answers. Good pick up lines get a woman to think about her reply, while inducing an emotional reaction, which encourages her to continue talking with you.

So how do you engage a girl?

Easy, ask her opinion about some issue, since each woman has her own opinion, she likes to share with other, especially when it concerns relationships.

So to give you an example, you could say something like: “Hey, can I get your opinion on something real quick? Do you think it’s wierd for a woman to try and get pregnant because she wants her baby to be born under a certain astrological sign? I really want to hear a woman’s perspective on this.”

Once you engage her in the conversation you may follow up with a tale of some woman who wants to be sure she and her children are astrologically compatible, to make life a bit more enjoyable as life moves along.

This can lead to various other topics of conversation, such as:

1. Astrology 2. Children 3. Pregnancy 4. Marriage 5. Relationships

The numerous ideas for conversations are unlimited. Here you will find a few of my favorite follow-ups.

“Do you believe in astrology?” (this can lead into discussions of fate and destiny)

“What is your sign?” (No matter what she says – be sure to mention your sign is compatible with hers!)

“Do you like kids? You seem like the nurturing type.”

I could go on, but you should get the idea.

The design of a good pick up line engages a woman into deep and interesting conversations that provide you with an opportunity to get to know one another as you become familiar with each other.

This is how you begin conversations.

From that point, it should be rather easy to ask her for a telephone number and possibly set up a first date.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

Some men think they are too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

Some think they’re too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

Many men feel hopeless when it comes to attracting the woman they desire, because of such feelings.

However, it is not true.

I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 – You have to be good looking to get women.

All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

What’s the difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women Think Just As Men Do

Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

Naturally, we practice this attitude while summing others up. Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to determine by visually appraising her whether you think she is attractive.

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.

This is incorrect.

Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.

A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice A Man’s Uncertainty And Insecurity

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

We see it, no matter what it is.

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

Keep in mind that insecurities and anxiety are completely unattractive.

It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.

Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she’s around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.

You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.

The second part of connect with women is generating sexual attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is when seduction comes into play.

As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Here are a few easy to follow steps you can use to meet women that makes the process of meeting women fun and easy!

I have a question…

(And you have to be honest with me here!)

Is it hard for you to meet women? Is your fear of meeting women paralyzing you from taking action, causing you to continue to be lonely and alone?

If so, don’t worry. I’m going to give you some incredible bits of advice you can use that will help you meet great women, and help you to take control of your love life and overcome your fear!

You may be under the false assumption that meeting women is supposed to come naturally to you. After all – we’re men! Aren’t we just “supposed” to know how to do this naturally?

Wrong.

Listen: despite what other people might tell you, men are not “born” automatically knowing how to meet and attract women. (I wish that WAS the case, but unfortunately, its not.)

Knowing how to meet women is something you LEARN, not something you’re “born with.”

You have to LEARN how to talk to women, just like you have to learn how to speak out loud, or walk, or do math.

Meeting women is a SKILL. And you have to LEARN skills in order to develop them.

So if you currently don’t know how to meet women, don’t worry, there is NOTHING wrong with you! You just haven’t learned enough to make meeting women something that’s comfortable and easy yet.

Sadly, many guys have a fear of meeting women that keeps them locked up inside their house on Saturday nights. And most of them will never take the steps they need to truly overcome that fear.

This is because they underestimate the power that this fear has on their lives! And they justify this fear of meeting women by focusing on all of the bad things that could happen.

There are some guys out there who have such low self-esteem that they think every girl they approach will either reject them, laugh in their face, or insult them right off the bat. Maybe they’re afraid of being publicly embarrassed, or the slim possibility the girl has a jealous boyfriend who will beat them up!

If this sounds like you, then I have news for you: You are actually TRAINING yourself to NOT approach women! You’re giving yourself reasons to give into your fears and not take any action.

In other words: You’re practicing FAILURE.

Understand – most of those things almost never happen in the real world!

Those fears often come from experiences men suffered in junior high or middle school, when they were starting to become sexually aware and got rejected a few times – or they saw stuff like this happen on TV, and they think it actually applies to their own life.

It is highly unfortunate that so many men let irrational fears shape their beliefs and attitudes about how to meet and date women that they keep to this very day!

However, there are men out there who grew up with the good fortune to have POSITIVE experiences with girls early on in their development. These experiences gave them a better outlook about what is possible and set them up for success with women as they matured.

But here’s some good news – even if you weren’t a lucky “early bloomer,” you are still able to take control of any fear you may have about meeting women. Just because you didn’t have early success, doesn’t mean you can’t still be extremely successful with the ladies!

You will need to examine and change your current beliefs and attitudes that are currently holding you back from having real success with women, and re-learn what you “think” you know about how to meet women and start training yourself to meet them the RIGHT WAY.

This is something that is extremely difficult for most guys to do. It’s easy to say you want to learn how to meet women, but the hard part is actually taking the action necessary to do so. You need to actually WANT to change!

You don’t want to be one of those guys who says, “Next time…” to himself whenever he sees an attractive woman. Because for those guys, every time is the “next time!”

If you see a girl you want to meet – say SOMETHING. Even if you don’t know what to say, just take a chance.

It doesn’t matter what you talk about – ask her for directions. Ask for her opinion on something. Playfully tease her about something she’s doing.

Or better yet, pay her a genuine compliment and be curious about who she is!

Don’t get hung up on what you’re going to say, just go over and talk to her. Don’t give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Make the decision to act and follow through. (If you need to, memorize a few interesting stories about your life if you need something to talk about.)

Don’t try and measure success based on if you got her phone number or a date. Just the simple act of approaching a woman and talking to her makes you a winner, because you did something that 80% of the other men out there wouldn’t have done! And the more you can do that, the greater your chances of meeting that one special woman.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
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Knowing how to approach women is a vital skill every man needs to know, because approaching women is the first step in creating a relationship with the girl of your dreams…

The way you approach a girl can make or break the rest of your pickup. Here are some tips for approaching women that will help ensure your success!

We’ve all had situations where we approached a girl with we thought was a smooth line, but she immediately rejected us before we could even open our mouths.

Know this – getting shot down has little to do with what you were going to say or what your intentions were. It’s all about how you go about actually approaching your target. It’s important to do this right the first time, because it’s hard to recover when you make a mistake right off the bat.

The key to approaching women is to approach them in a NON-THREATENING manner that does not telegraph your interest.

This is known as “coming in under the radar.”

It’s the woman’s reality that she constantly gets guys approaching her and trying to pick her up, so her natural inclination is to nip this in the bud quickly by outright REJECTING any man who seems interested in her.

Most men don’t realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don’t want to deal with yet “another pick-up attempt.”

Approaching women can be both easy AND fun when you know how to do it RIGHT.

So let’s talk about the right way to approach any woman…

First – YOU MUST ACT FAST.

If you hesitate and let the opportunity pass you by, you’re never going to experience success. Giving yourself time to talk yourself out of approaching a girl will never get you anywhere, so it’s important you act quickly and JUST DO IT.

Next, know before-hand what you’re going to say. This makes the act of approaching women so much easier, because you don’t have to waste time thinking of something to talk about before you approach.

So having a good pick-up line in your hip pocket to use in these situations is probably a good idea.

But I’m not talking about the “Hey, nice shoes, what to have sex?” type line. The point is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?

The best lines usually engage the girl in an innocent conversation. You can do so by asking her opinion on something and then following that up with more questions.

Another thing – when you are approaching women, don’t charge in like you’re going to war. Approach them from an angle. This is less confrontational and will subconsciously put the woman you are engaging more at ease.

Remember: great pick ups can only happen when the girl is comfortable with you. That’s why it’s so important for YOU to feel comfortable when you’re talking to girls!

If you’re not comfortable approaching women, the best way to overcome it is to go out there and start approaching women right away! After all, practice makes perfect, right?

The sad fact is, you’re not going to get good at approaching women if all you do is sit around reading about it and studying it like a test. If you want to get good and have success, you actually have to go out and DO IT so you can build your experience level. (The good news – it gets easier the more you do it!)

Don’t be afraid of getting rejected when you do this. Look at it as a game and distance yourself from the outcome. You’re not trying to get a date or get her into bed, your only goal is to talk to her and strike up a conversation. If you do that, you win!

That’s it!

Make it a game by seeing how many girls you can talk to in one day, and then try and beat your score.

The last thing you want to remember is always use a “time constraint” when approaching a woman. This is very easy to do – just tell her right off the bat that you’re not going to be long because you have to get back to what you were doing.

You want to do this because if she feels this approach is just a “momentary” distraction, and you’re not trying to “impose” yourself on her, she’ll be more willing to engage you in your approach.

Don’t worry about putting a time limit on yourself. Once the conversation picks up, the girl will forget about your time constraint and you can talk to her as long as you want. Remember, the goal here is just to get the conversation started, and a good time constraint will help you do that!

Be aware that the dating game is actually a numbers game. You need to meet as many women as possible to find that one special girl who will change your life.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Feeling clueless when it comes to picking up women? These handy tips will help get you started on the path of success to getting the women of your dreams!

Do you want to go out and pick up a woman tonight, but have no clue where to start?

Chances are no one you know can help you learn to pick up women. Your friends are probably just as clueless as you are, and your family is of no help at all. Even those “Dating Experts” you see on TV are full of it, because they have to cater to the feminist media to keep their careers on track! (And as we all know, the mainstream media doesn’t like helping guys get laid!)

Understand: Learning how to pick up women is not a politically-correct topic!

If you want to get started right away, you’re going to need some practical advice that really works! Luckily, you’ve found this article! So let’s get to it…

First off – here’s what you DON’T need to pick up women.

You DON’T need to look like a “male model.”

This is a huge mistake that almost all men make. Little do they realize that close to 85% of women place more importance on how a man makes them FEEL as opposed to how he actually LOOKS.

So if you’re insecure about your looks, don’t sweat it! There’s still hope.

Another thing is – you DON’T need to spend lots of cash or drive flashy cars!

Some of the best pick up artists I’ve ever met never spend more than $30 when on a date, and many of them didn’t even own a car! (And if they did, it wasn’t a very nice one!)

Most women don’t care how much money you make or spend on them – IF they actually like you! And a big part of picking up women is to get them to like you, isn’t that right?

Finally, you DON’T have to be famous, be a certain type of ethnicity or nationality, or anything else you can think of.

The secret is to have a great personality – this will make any other obstacle you think you have to getting a girl to like you obsolete!

If you know the proper way to interact with women, nothing else matters.

Unless you’re currently a master pickup artist, you may not have a whole lot of success with women right away when using these tactics – after all, it takes time to practice and learn from your experiences. But if you actually apply what you’ve learned, you’ll soon find your success with women will skyrocket!

Go out as often as you’re able to and talk to as many women as you can, especially when you’re starting out. You don’t have to go to high-pressure environments like nightclubs where it’s difficult to pick up women, but there is no better “practice ground” in my opinion, simply because there are SO MANY women out there to pick up.

Despite where you choose to go, you need to set aside some time every day to go out and pick up women – you’ll get better the more times you do it!

You might not have a whole lot of success when you first start – but you’ll notice a change as your confidence with women begins to build. Every success or failure you experience will help teach you the things you need to do to properly pick up women, and more importantly, what NOT to do!

Remember: With Experience Comes MASTERY.

The most important thing to remember about going out to pick up women is to gain experience!

When you’re going out to pick up women and gain experience, it’s important to look as good as you possibly can!

(Notice here that I’m not saying you have to be “good looking.” I’m saying you need to “look good.” There is a big difference between the two. You don’t have any say about what you look like, but you DO have a say in your appearance – your hairstyle, the clothes you wear, what cologne you put on, etc.)

Dress for success: Wear clothing that fits you, that’s color-coordinated and looks good on you. If you have fashion-conscious friends who can help you pick out a wardrobe (particularly if they’re women), now’s the time to recruit them.

Dressing nicely to meet women is not mandatory – you don’t NEED to do it. However, it will make the process of meeting women much easier (women do like men who take pride in their appearance). Also, the nicer your dress, the more confident you’ll feel!

Keep an out out for every opportunity to pick up women that comes your way. Attractive women are just about everywhere, and if you notice an opportunity to talk to one, don’t let it pass you by!

Finally, every good pick-up follows a structure. Its a series of steps you can actually REPEAT time and time again and get similar results.

This structure is as follows:

Find a woman.

Meet her.

Talk and Gain Rapport.

Build Attraction.

These four simple steps is all you need! You’ll find that if you can just meet the women you want and gain rapport with them, you’ll easily be able to build attraction with them too.

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Website: www.speed-seduction.net
Author: Ross Jeffries
Company: Ghita Inc.
Rating: SCAM! Avoid At All Costs!!!!

Speed Seduction is one of the earliest incarnations of dating advice for men to be found on the internet. Since the early 90’s, creator Ross Jeffries has been going on talk shows and doing interviews to try and get unsuspecting men to sign up for his courses.

Now, to be fair, everything we’ve seen about how Ross Jeffries does business is on the level. Products get shipped out in a timely fashion, customer support is easily accessible, and refunds are made in a timely fashion.

In one case, a product I ordered had a mis-labeled disk in it, which was actually a repeat of a different disk in the series. When I called up to complain and report the issue, I was sent out a new replacement disk immediately.

So the fault in Speed Seduction isn’t in the way Mr. Jeffries conducts business, rather it’s in the information he chooses to sell.

The concept behind Speed Seduction is that you can use a science called Neuro Linguistic Programming to “hypnotize” a woman into feeling attraction for you and getting her into bed.

You use pre-designed hypnotic routines, weasel phrases, anchors, modalities, and a bunch of other gobbely-gook to achieve this goal.

First off – the production value on all of Speed Seduction’s materials is rather amateurish. Some of it was recorded in a garage in the early 90’s, and it sounds like it.

The technology behind Neuro Linguistic Programming (or NLP) seems sound enough. It’s about structuring your language patters to evoke specific emotional responses from your subjects.

Unfortuneately, when it comes to dating, it just doesn’t work.

On a wide scale, everyone who has used Speed Seduction to attract women have reported untold problems and outright failures when using the method.

Top students, students who had claimed to have gotten it to work in the past, now deride the method as being “too complicated” and “not effective enough,” and have moved on to better systems of seduction.

Average and intermediate students report to have great difficulties getting the system to work at all. Complaints of “too much memorization” abound, since the whole endeavor centers around regurgitating awkward routines which are supposed to hypnotize a girl.

(And trust me, some of these routines are loooong.)

Not only that, but you get a lot of really lame subversive attempts to embed hypnotic commends with women. Like saying things such as:

“My best ideas come from above me, but sometimes they come from b-low me.” (Mispronounce below as “blow” and then point at your penis).

Indeed, in addition to all the outright criticism of Speed Seduction itself, it’s creator, Ross Jeffries, is surrounded in so much controversy, he alone is reason enough to stay away from his method.

There are numerous reports floating around that Ross Jeffries can’t even get his system to work for himself, and he resorts to either “acting gay” or outright embarrassing stunts to get the attention of women. One report has him getting on all fours and acting like a dog to sniff a woman’s butt at a club.

He’s also been accused of relying on hookers for female companionship by former friends, claiming they never see him with a girl he’s not paying for. Whether this is true or not, I can’t verify, but the last thing I want to do is learn how to get chicks from a guy who relies on hookers for companionship.

Other students, who have paid to be hypnotized by Ross Jeffries personally, report great dissatisfaction with the end result. In one case, a student reports “It did nothing and was a waste of money,” and in another case, a student claims “I left feeling more messed up than I did when I went in.”

Ross Jeffries likes to try and deflect any criticism about his success with women (which he is constantly challenged on) by claiming it doesn’t matter what kind of success he has, that he’s a good teacher of the material. However, the material itself is flawed, and who wants to learn from a man who can’t make his system work for himself?

Ross has also been widely criticized for trying to inject elements of his own “religion” into his system, telling students to rely on “huna”, “metaphysics”, and “energy manipulation” to get women attracted to them.

Obviously, a great deal of this methodology is complete, outright B.S. Claims that Ross Jeffries wants his students to see him as some type of “cult leader” abound, and it’s not hard to believe based on what I’m seeing here.

Not only that, but a great deal of Ross Jeffries marketing materials are blatantly false and misleading. Ross Jeffries himself admits to this while on the Dr. Phil show. During the show, one woman exclaimed she felt extremely “creeped out” by him. (Not exactly what you want to hear with a teacher of seduction.)

You can see Mr. Jeffries admit his false advertising on the Dr. Phil video here.

In the same video, you can see him lie about what he teaches. He claims he’s not teaching guys how to hypnotize women, when all his sales material (and even his course material) says otherwise.

In my personal test with Speed Seduction, I met with very poor results. The hypnotic patterns and language structure taught in the course does not go with how normal people talk at all, and it comes out as awkward.

Often times, you’re just looking for some opportunity to recite one of the patterns you spent hours learning. And when you do, they never work as they are supposed to. Typically, the girl’s reaction is akin to “Yeah, whatever,” and then she moves on.

When trying to do the proper voice tone and inflection (ie: they “hypno-voice” taught in the course), I had one girl ask me why I was talking so weird.

The use of Speed Seduction turned otherwise regular interactions with girls into something creepy and unnatural. I actually felt BAD about using these methods on girls, and even worse when I saw they got no result and I had basically blown a chance with a chick by using something so stupid to try and “seduce” her.

Can Speed Seduction work? Probably. There are reports of students getting it to do what it’s supposed to. But most of these students also claim to had to create and memorize upwards of 300 hypnotic routines to do so. This is a situation where you just bombard the woman into sleeping with you.

In addition to that, there are reports of “high buyers remorse” from women who do fall for Speed Seduction tactics. Numerous “successful” students talk about how they lose a girl after the initial lay because she was weirded out by the experience. Critics of Speed Seduction claim that when you use NLP to bypass a girl’s critical factors to get her to sleep with you, they will flare up once the deed is done and judge you harshly. So even by getting her into bed, you lose her in the long run.

All this goes towards me giving this system the SCAM stamp.

Final Verdict: STAY AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The information might work, but there are better systems out there. Cheaper, more effective systems (the basic Speed Seduction Course runs upwards of $250!). Don’t waste your time with this hocus pocus. Instead, check out the only three dating advice

products I recommend:

#1. The Art Of Approaching (Most Recommended – Must Buy)

#2. Double Your Dating

#3. Alpha Confidence

You can’t go wrong with these three.

Stay safe,

Jim Jones

Website: www.realworldseduction.com
Author: Swinggcat
Company: Superior Living Inc.
Rating: SCAM! Avoid At All Costs!

When I first saw the Real World Seduction website, I was intrigued. It seemed like a really “underground method” of seducing women. In fact, the whole vibe of the website seems a bit seedy, which I guess is part of the initial attraction.

The proprietor of the site, who goes by the nickname “Swinggcat,” was apparently a big-shot seducer in the early days of the seduction community.

When you read his sales material on his website, he tries really hard to convince you that his method of “push pull” is the greatest thing since sliced bread, and his teachings will make any woman attracted to you instantly.

Now, I can’t bash the product too much. Swinggcat definitely has some interesting material. But I just can’t in good faith recommend anybody purchase the products from this site for the following reasons:

1. You Can’t Download What You Purchase.

There is a long, long history of people who have bought the Real World Seduction course and were never able to download it. And those who did download it weren’t able to open it!

This is because there is some type of copy protection on the ebook that requires an activation code to access it.

The problem? Well, after you buy YOU NEVER GET THE ACTIVATION CODE!

So there you are, stuck with a book you just paid upwards of $40 for that you can’t read.

Strike 1.

2. No Customer Support – EVER.

There is a horrible lack of customer support over at Real World Seduction. If you have a problem, good luck getting in touch with anyone. Phone calls go unanswered (a mysterious female voice thanks you for calling Real World Seduction, and asks you to leave a message that will never be returned), and emails go unread.

When I had a problem accessing my course, I emailed the support email upwards of 10 times – once a day for 10 days.

No answer. Ever.

Strike 2.

3. Bad about giving refunds

After feeling rather taken advantage of, I called up and emailed again, demanding my money back. Again, each request went UNANSWERED.

So I end up buying a book that I can’t read. Perfect. That’s really going to help me “attract women.”

Strike 3 – You’re out!!!!

Funny enough, you never stop getting Swinggcat’s emails asking you to buy MORE of his products, though. Only thsi time, instead of $40, he’s asking you to shell out $250 and up.

I am not alone in this bad experience either. The internet is riddled with angry reviews about the lack of customer support and bad business practices by Real World Seduction.

Final Verdict: STAY AWAY!!!!

The information might be good, but the company isn’t. Don’t waste your time. Instead, check out the only three dating advice products I recommend:

#1. The Art Of Approaching (Most Recommended – Must Buy)

#2. Double Your Dating

#3. Alpha Confidence

You can’t go wrong with these three.

Stay safe,

Jim Jones